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Why Not Knowing Is Good For You

So I just released a podcast, talking about uncertainty and certainty, and why uncertainty can be a good thing, and how certainty can be a bad thing. Two thoughts that would not normally come to mind, I know.

While you can listen to the podcast below:

Or on Spotify or Itunes (click these links)

I wanted to further expand on it because I really do think that this is a topic better discussed with written word over spoken word. I knew it took me a few times of reading the passages for it to really click with me.

Again, I'll be referencing heavily the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson.

The book is chock full of just refreshing and very practical advice. In this instance, it talks first about how certainty is dangerous. He talks about most criminals needs to have an unwavering certainty in order to commit crimes.

And it makes sense. I like to believe most people have an inherent capacity for good and for bad, so if there was any uncertainty, any doubt, these criminals would not be committing said crimes.

Its why only the "most committed" escalate in cults or anything like that. The ones that are the most certain are also the ones that are willing to do the most extreme things.

And its when you're 100% certain of your actions and to a flawed ideology (because humans are not perfect, so human thoughts cannot be perfect) that disasters occur.

But you can also use this uncertainty, this questioning, can also lead to improving yourself as well as the relationships around you.

In fact, there are three questions in total you should ask:

1. What if I'm wrong?

2. What would it mean if I were wrong?

3. Would being wrong create a better or a worse problem than my current problem, for both myself and others?

Asking yourself these questions will be very difficult at first, but like anything else worth achieving in life, it's got to be done.

So let me know what you think. What are your thoughts on certainty and uncertainty? I'd love to hear what you think, or if you have any thoughts about what I should talk about next.

 

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